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Time:12:29 am
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I know that everyone is probably just as crazed as I am getting ready for Pesach (it's 12:30am now and I don't see sleep on the horizon for many hours) and this is probably best for another list/community but I am having an issue and I wanted to see if any of the women out there had any advice/had been in the same position.

As things have turned out, my night for going to the mikvah this month is this Saturday night. This is also the year that my sister and her family will be in town and we are having them for Shabbat and the first days of Pesach (although they will be staying in a different apartment in our building). So, how does one go to the mikvah on the night of the sedarim without it being completely obvious that they have been to the mikvah. There would be only one reason why my hair would be wet over the chag so I can't chalk it up to anything else (I wear a hat, beret or scarf to cover my head and it does not completely cover my hair). In the past it has always been the first night of the chag, so I blended in well with all the other women that washed their hair right before the chag began. That doesn't work for the second night. Nor does "blending in" work when I am the hostess of the sedarim.

This wouldn't even be an issue if I were pregnant. Oh wait, that's my mother-in-law's voice coming through. :) Feel free to ignore it. As the hour is getting later and we are getting closer and closer to Pesach, I'm getting punchier and making weirder jokes. Keeping a sense of humor through all of this. That's what has kept me sane year after year. :)

Chag Kasher V'Sameach!
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kmelion
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Time:2008-04-17 06:00 am (UTC)
Generally if you have a feeling your Mikvah night is going to fall out on a night such as this, you should speak to your Rav before you start counting and see if you can delay the counting so you can delay going to the Mikvah. The Rav unfortunately will generally not give a heter to just push off Mikvah night.

Several ideas... you can say that you have holiday hair and want to keep it covered until you can wash it... or say that it was just too disgusting and you really needed to wash it.

Take an empty, pot or an empty covered aluminum tray and tell your sister that you have to take a dish over to a sick neighbor.

In addition, if you do end up going Motza"sh, make sure to call the Mikvah tonight and make an appointment.
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shoshiboo
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Time:2008-04-17 11:33 am (UTC)
My Rabbi was awesome about it. He asked me if I was absolutely sure that my first bedikah was okay in a way to allow for there to be a question without questioning how I have done it any other time. This at least gives me an extra night, which makes the issue of tziniut a little bit better. I can use the "gross hair" excuse easily and it is more likely that I would go to shul on Sunday night.

I already made my appointment, which prompted my wondering about this. Our mikvah is by appointment only. As a shomeret I appreciate it, as I always know how long I will be there and how many women will be coming that night.
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introducingyael
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Time:2008-04-18 02:53 am (UTC)
Try tying a tichel in a different way than you have before? that way, you're all covered but you can say "Ooh I saw this look on XYZ an just had to try it."
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